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5 Reasons Not to Give Your Kids an Allowance

Don’t give your kids an allowance just because you received one. In fact, you might not want to give them one at all.

I received an allowance as a kid. I can’t remember how much it was and can’t say that it created any great financial habits.

I got an allowance mostly because my parents got allowances when they were kids.

But is tradition really a good reason to give your kids money? In fact, there might be some very good reasons for NOT giving your kids an allowance.

I’ve been discussing the point with my wife as our son gets to the age where we might consider a regular allowance. I have to admit, even after talking to some other bloggers, I’m still not sure I have settled on whether or not to give him an allowance.

why you should not give your kids an allowanceBut I have come across some good reasons to question the conventional wisdom.

To be honest, I had an allowance when I was younger and I don’t think it screwed me up too much. In fact, Derek at Money Ahoy argues five reasons you SHOULD give your kids an allowance as a rebuttal to this article and makes some good points.

Reasons an Allowance May Not Work as Well as You Thought

1) When is the last time someone paid you for cooking dinner or cleaning up after yourself? If you give your kids an allowance for cleaning their room or helping out around the house, does that mean you will be inspecting their college dorm every week and paying them to keep it clean?

Kids need to learn that there are some things you do around the house just because they need to get done. A family works together even if the rewards aren’t as tangible as getting paid. If everyone pitches in, the work is done much faster and more fairly.

If one person never learns this rule of working together, then the rest of the family will constantly have to pick up the slack.

2) If your kids are receiving an allowance but have no financial responsibilities, are they really learning anything about budgeting or saving? Forcing them to save some of their allowance only makes saving a punishment and is it really fair to charge them for food or other necessities that you should be providing?

Teach your kids about financial responsibility by sharing yours. No, that doesn’t mean make them pay for cable service. Talk to them about what it means to manage your money including the hard decisions.

3) Should money even be used as a reward? Giving your kids money as a reward establishes the mentality that you only need to do things if you’re getting paid.

Money may not even work as a reward on some kids. They may have no concept of money or sacrifice if you are just giving them an allowance every week.

Thinking about allowances always reminds me of an episode of The Simpsons. Marge threatens Bart and Lisa by withholding their allowance until the yard work is done. After a quick attempt, the kids go back to watching TV and wonder why they’re even bothering when everything is paid for anyway.

Andy of Marriage, Kids and Money makes a good point for teaching kids the value of money not by rewarding them for nothing but by letting them earn their money. Letting them do extra work or come up with their own tasks also helps spark that entrepreneurial thought process.

4) There are better rewards than giving a child an allowance. Let them pick the family outing for the week or just tell them how proud you are of their accomplishment.

This relates back to the first reason in the list. Don’t feel like you have to reward your child for doing things they should be doing anyway. My dad devised a reward system for good grades in middle school, i.e. I got so much for an A and a little less for a B. After the system was stopped when I went off to college, I had to figure out a new motivation for studying and getting good grades…and it took most of my first two years to figure it out.

5) There are better ways to teach your kids about money through budgeting games and saving. Ask them to help you plan the family’s budget. That makes it just as real to them as saving a few dollars a month for some intangible goal.

There are good reasons to give your kids an allowance as well and I think you can do it without worrying about the reasons above if you take the time to reinforce the good ideas. I think the biggest problem in a regular allowance is that busy parents just don’t take the time to talk to their kids about money. The allowance just becomes something the kids expect and the parents don’t take the time to talk about good financial habits or what the allowance is supposed to achieve.

Don’t give your kids an allowance because you received one. Don’t give them money because the ‘conventional wisdom’ says it will teach them good financial habits. Teach your kids good money habits by demonstrating them yourself and talk about important topics like budgeting, saving and investing. Talk about where you’ve made mistakes with money, what it has meant and the family’s financial goals.

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  1. Avatar Jonathan Mason says

    My rule of thumb is I only will give my kid money on special occasion’s when a done a really good job and not every time they do a job

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